There are people who will build you up and then break you down. They say to forget about them, but you never should. Because without those people, you wouldn’t be who you are today.
They made you feel your highest. They made you feel special, wanted, cared for, and loved. They made you feel your lowest. Like you’re worthless, useless, and unwanted.
These are the people who made you’re heart skip a beat and break. These are the people you want to remember. Because despite their actions, you kept going. What they put you through was for the best.
Because in the end, when your heart has been broken so many times and it seems unfixable. Their will be someone at the end of the road to help mend it.
I’ve been realizing lately that one of the burdens of being a caring and empathetic person, is knowing when to be selfish with your stress. When to take your energy and keep it for your own problems.
Do you ever do that? Do you ever take on so many people’s problems, that you either having nothing left for yourself and look like the person who always has something wrong? Whether it’s your friends, your colleagues, or your community members, where are you unnecessarily taking on someone else’s fight?
More than ever, I’m understanding the importance of being selfish with my energy. Of choosing which battles will be the most important to me, and going 110% at fighting it. But we can’t do that for others. We cannot fight their battles. We cannot want more life, more greatness, more love for them than they want for themselves.
So the next time you find yourself taking on someone else’s battle and fighting the blazing fire for them, take a step back. Take a breath. And try and find a place that you can support them without being drained. Your life needs your energy, save it for the fights you can win.